This could get nasty. If any of you watch the BBC quiz program QI you may familiar with the elephant in the room - the question or issue that is staring you in the face but you can't see it. Seriously, if you don't want to know what my elephant is, leave now.
Still here? It's as simple as this - my wife has breast cancer.
Actually, she has Ductile Carcinoma In Situ, or a non-invasive form of cancer in her left breast, but it's wide spread enough that within the next couple of weeks she will face a mastectomy and reconstructive surgery. Outwardly, she looks fine, but it's there - I've seen the pictures as well.
There's no history of this in her family, but her sister died a few years back of liver cancer, so the fear level is upped already. There's also the nagging fear that she could be really unlucky, and they find something malignant when they remove the breast.
So why is it the elephant in the room? Simply this - I love her more than words can say, but I probably fear what is about to happen more than her. I'll be there every step of the way with her, yet I also know that this is her fight, and sometimes I don;t know what else I can do to help her. You feel you would give anything for this not to happen, but it's going to and dealing with it is hard on both of us.
If you're reading this, and you've been through a similar thing, this may or may not strike a chord. At any rate, remember us, and I'll use this as way of noting my thoughts through the weeks ahead. If I shout and swear, forgive me.